If it feels like there’s something holding you back from generating wealth, but you can’t pinpoint the problem – then congratulations!
Because it could mean that at a deeper level, you’re beginning to question previously unexamined beliefs around money.
Which is a necessary process to go through when building new, more effective money foundations.
When you set out to create a new financial future you're going to venture into unfamiliar mental and emotional space.
As you come close to the boundaries of your current money paradigm, you may sense that something is amiss, but lack the conceptual framework to be able to language it effectively.
Running out of language indicates that you’ve reached the limit of your ability to move forward using your existing mental model.
So it’s time to build a new one.
As Buckminster Fuller said “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”
Somebody asked Paul Counsel about this exact issue in a recent Money Mastery Mentor Q and A session.
The explanation Paul had to offer was so simple and practical that we just had to share the recording .
Check it out below and if you've had this type of experience feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section.
Transcript
Question put forward by somebody else (read by Nathan)
Nathan: It feels like something’s holding me back and I can’t identify the problem. How do I start to deal with this to find a solution. This person was asking how do they approach this problem where they feel like there’s some obstacles to their progress but they can’t see what that is. How do they actually start analysing or looking at what that might be.
Paul: Do we know whether this person’s male or female?
Nathan: Male. I think it’s male.
Paul: It doesn’t necessarily make a difference except for the way that I’m going to answer the question. It’s a really significant problem that this person is facing.
Nathan: I brought this question (forward) because I can understand what they might be experiencing because I feel like I’ve had a similar type of thing in the past but I found it difficult to language.
Paul: That’s an excellent example of a frame of reference challenge/problem. Because once you hit the boundary of your model of your world. Once you hit the boundary of language. You can’t actually go past that. You can still have the feelings because the feelings can be tapping into a higher intelligence but you don’t have any way of languaging them. Until somebody else comes along that has more language and more understanding and says “is it something like this?”. And they say “oh yes that’s exactly how I feel”. Now they’ve just had a breakthrough because now they’ve got the language, they can label it. Once they can label it, now we can actually describe it and find a way through it, around it, over it. Whatever.
You’re at the limits of your references. You’re at the limit of those languages. Which is why we know that it’s a really deep core issue. Because you don’t actually have language around it. You have feelings but not language. So we know that it’s a real core thing. Because when people start to run out of language they’ve gone from the peripheries into these deep core issues, or blockages, or – we can give them a dozen different names – but we don’t actually have the references to talk about them until somebody gives us those references. And often in group sessions with other people you might hear somebody language something and you say “ohhh” you know? That’s why lots of those group sessions actually work because somebody else has got a better way with words.
Just to give this person some guidance. I am running an inner circle group. In that inner circle group, there’s actually no females. There’s forty blokes and the oldest is I think about fiftyish and the youngest in their early twenties. Now, everybody in that group is actually a high achiever of one level or another. This is all around the world. They inhabit different parts of the world. Some are professional sports people. Some run gymnasiums. Some run businesses where they come across a whole lot of people. Some are professional practitioners such as kinesiology and physiotherapy and things of that nature. Anyway, this problem comes up again and again and again. I’ve been running this group just over twelve months and will be running it for another six months. It’s amazing that none of the people in this group had any experience of how to use their level of experience to translate it into a different expression.
For example, they’re high achievers in lets say, sport, but very low achievers in, lets say, business, or money. They got well paid as a high-level sports person but now that they can’t be sold as a sports person any more they don’t know how to make money. Because they only made money on the fact that somebody else could sell them, sell their expertise or their skills as a sports person. Once you retire. You’re on your own.
So that question has come up a lot within the group. Now there are two people who are specialising in helping men literally through those challenges as we speak. One of them in particular, his expertise was in sales and sales training. He’d teach everyone how to make sales scripts and all that sort of stuff. He has gone out and got himself (because he was dealing with these deep core issues as well) a mentor that is a psychologist that specialises in helping men. He now is helping men overcome whatever core thing is going on. So he’s well served from up above him, let’s say, and he’s now serving people who are yet to get to his level of expression.
I can reference that person (who asked the question) to any of these people or in fact, if they’re not part of the three percent program I would invite them to come on and have discussions. Because I won’t know what their core issues are until they give me access to them and it requires lots of questions and questioning and things of that nature.
Nathan: So, the answer is they need individual guidance really?
Paul: Yes, but somebody who specialises not necessarily in helping them overcome core issues because there’s lots of therapists, lots of counsellors, lots of people with a general all-round specialty. But if you’re talking about those core issues in terms of wanting to best himself in a particular area then it’s probably more important that to get somebody who is skilled in that area with both sets. That knows what’s going on for the individual because they were once there themselves and can, through their level of experience, help people identify what’s going on in them. But again, it gets back to two things. If we were to put everything in a pot and then reduce that pot down to its core sauce, if you like, its core ingredients. If we get rid of the water and everything so we’re only left with its core flavours. It will have something to do with an unresolved issue in that person’s past that was once a solution that’s now not a solution. So, it becomes a barrier because it was unresolved. So, it was a solution when it went in and generally speaking it would have gone in when he was in his childhood years. So, it went in there as a solution that worked for when he was that age. But because it’s never been resolved it now acts as a deep core issue in adulthood. Unless those things are resolved – and to resolve them you’ve got to be able to identify them – identifying is based on a lot of discussion. So, they remain in place.
Nathan: Awesome!